Redemption and Divorce

Posted on Monday, September 26, 2011


I was in the book store the other day and I was browsing while Rachel and the girls were listening to story time in the children’s section.  A little red book by Mark W. Gaither called Redemptive Divorce caught my eye.  I finished it last night.  While it would seem that Redemption and Divorce are antonyms, Gaither uses a Biblical discussion of marriage and divorce as the backdrop to introduce a legal strategy aimed at keeping marriages together.  He proposes that filing for divorce can help save a marriage about 20% of the time.   READ MORE

The Leaver and the Left

Posted on Friday, July 08, 2011


In every divorce, each spouse takes on a role- the leaver and the left. Robert Emery talks about this phenomenon in his book The Truth About Children and Divorce. I have recommended it to dozens of folks after seeing him speak in a conference a few years ago. The leaver and the left have a very different mindset when it comes to the process of divorce because of their place on the divorce grief cycle. Remember that unlike a death that has finality, a divorce continues to have the chance of reconciliation and therefore the grief cycle can be extended as the couple vacillates in the good times and bad that encamp every failing relationship. As time goes on, the grief cycle of love – anger – sadness begins to flatten out and the person can feel somewhat whole again, although very different.  READ MORE

Settling Your Case Isn't the Same as Throwing in the Towel

Posted on Saturday, March 26, 2011


In Mississippi, a person can get a divorce by agreement or for one of the reasons the Legislature has set by statute.  Let's say you sue your spouse for a divorce based on adultery. You can also request a divorce by agreement (irreconcilable differences) in the alternative.  Depending on the facts that arise during the investigative part of your case, your spouse might indicate a settlement could be possible through focused negotiating in mediation or an informal settlement conference.  Is it worth it to concentrate on settling?  In the vast majority of cases, my answer is absolutely yes.  READ MORE

A Bird in the Hand is Worth Two in the Bush

Posted on Tuesday, March 01, 2011


Most everyone knows the old saying that A Bird in the Hand is Worth Two in the Bush. According to www.wiktionary.com , it means that “It is preferable to have a small but certain advantage than a mere potential of a greater one.” We apply this principal in our legal analysis on a daily basis and many times it guides our divorce clients to a better outcome.  READ MORE

Can One Lawyer Represent Two People in a Divorce?

Posted on Sunday, February 06, 2011


On occasion I get a phone call or speak to someone about their divorce and they tell me that everything is going to be simple and they are hoping that I can represent both sides. While these calls are a lot easier than the ones where I hear gunshots, screaming and police sirens in the background, there are two very basic problems with this mindset.  READ MORE

How to Win a Child Custody Case in Mississippi

Posted on Monday, January 10, 2011


There are few relationships that are as important in our society as the parent-child relationship. Child custody cases are the most difficult in all of the law.  Jesus said that children are the very center of his Kingdom, and I strongly believe that absent unusual circumstances, a child needs both parents to be an active part of their life.  Men and woman are simply equipped differently to nurture their children.  I could spend my time in this article talking about theAlbright factors and strategies for convincing a judge that your child should be in your physical or legal custody, which is common sense but something I have had great success doing through the years, but I am going to take a different approach today- one developed from over a decade of experience and enriched by being the father of two precious daughters.   READ MORE

Last News

Not the Same

Posted on Friday, May 25, 2012


It has been a while since I sat down to write a blog article.  Who would of thought being the executive director of a new,  Mississippi non-profit adoption agency would be so time consuming?  But I digress (more on that later)… I have a friend and client who is going through a divorce.  He is a great guy who made a few mistakes.  Actually, in the grand scheme of mistakes that a person can make in a marriage, his were relatively minor offenses, but his wife, a hard-charging, type-A personality, cannot stand that her perfect little idea of a life may not have a starched shirt and slick, silk tie.   I grieve for him, but I grieve for her just as much.   I want to reach out to her and tell her that if your idea of living is measured relationally to those around you as opposed to what springs from inside, inhabiting the spiritual realm, there will never be a sense of satisfaction, but what do I know, she is going through one divorce and I have been through about 500. READ MORE

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