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Same Kind of Different As Me: A Book Review

Rachel and I are art collectors.  We don’t have anything very expensive or by any extremely well known artists, but our little collection is something we have enjoyed together through the years.  I bought our first piece before I left Oxford after finishing law school.  It is by a Cuban artist named Exposita and depicts a sad man with a paper hat shaped like a boat on his head.  In the gallery, it was hung next to a similar painting, but instead of a boat, the sad figure had what looked like a cooked chicken on his head.  The gallery curator explained how Cubans are hungry and looking to escape the oppression of the post communist regime.  It was a great story for an average painting.  It hangs in the hall of my office today. Read More

Skip Scary Close: A Book Review

I have historically been a pretty big Donald Miller fan.  He is the somewhat edgy Christian author best known for Blue Like Jazz, a NY Times bestseller.  I have read several of his other works, and check out his blog from time to time.  I read A Million Miles in a Thousand Years on a trip to Yellowstone, and its theme of living a better story is one of the reasons Rachel and I started 200 Million Flowers.  I later got to spend time with Bob Goff, the whacky lawyer Miller writes about in the book and who wrote his own bestseller, Love Does.  We even went to one of his conferences in Nashville.   Read More

Husband-In-Laws

My friend Dr. Mike recently invited me to go on a quail hunting trip to Clarke County, Mississippi.  You remember him from a blog I wrote a little while back.  There are not that many wild quail left in Mississippi because of fire ants and coyotes, but enthusiasts buy farm grown quail and release them to be hunted.  I am told it is not as good as the real thing, and it is admittedly a little unfair to release quail that have never flown and expect them to have a sporting chance at life.   But the hunters only harvest about 50 to 60%, so these birds actually have better odds than the ones who end up on the menu in fancy restaurants.   Read More

Nirvana

Elizabeth Gilbert wrote a book called Eat, Pray, Love in 2006.  She was formerly an "unpublished diner waitress," with a stack of rejection letters from publishers. Her book was wildly successful, but she found herself “regressing” to the sentimentality she felt before she hit it big.  Her first follow up book was a flop, but she felt strangely better and got back to work.  Her next effort was received well. Read More

A Straight Razor Shave and Divorce

I am learning about the importance of doing little things for yourself every day.  If you love flowers, make a flower arrangement or work in your backyard.  If you are into art, visit a local gallery or buy a canvas and paint --create something.  If you are a film buff, sneak off and catch a matinee before the kids get off the bus.  A mini personal holiday can go a long way to increasing your joy in everyday life.  Yesterday, in pursuit of my own battery recharge, I made an appointment for my first straight razor shave. Read More

Crazymakers

This morning in my men’s group we talked about Crazymakers. I had heard my counselor friends use the word for years, but I ran across the topic again from a part of The Artist’s Way- A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity by Julia Cameron, which discusses recovering a sense of identity.  A Crazymaker is someone who makes you crazy.  They disrupt your natural rhythm.  “Often larger than life, they acquire that status by feeding on the life energies of those around them,” says Cameron.  Crazymakers can be parents, spouses, children, employers, clients, people at church and ex-spouses.  Sometimes, the Crazymaker is you.  I think we all have the potential to be Crazymakers during different seasons of life, but being in the presence of a chronic Crazymaker will make your head spin. Read More

10 Tips for Divorce Recovery

The papers are signed, the money is settled, and the kids are for the most part situated.  Today is the first day of the rest of your life.  The divorce is over and there is a big scary world in your windshield.  You are feeling sad, happy and angry –all at the same time.  While you are a little bit in denial, you know it is real.  Surreal actually.  You bargain with yourself about what could have gone differently, but you know you must move ahead.  What follows are ten tips for recovery from divorce to help you navigate the upcoming months:   Read More

Visceral

I knew a guy in law school at the University of Mississippi who had a Masters in English.  He was a veracious reader, listened to National Public Radio and drank dark beer.  When he would read, he kept a dictionary close at hand in an effort to expand his vocabulary.  A very passionate guy, I associate the word visceral with him, because it encapsulates his often-zealous approach to life.  It’s also a term absent in most people’s everyday vernacular, but not his.   Read More

When the Preacher Gets Divorced

I just finished rereading Wild at Heart by John Eldredge with a bunch of guys I meet with once a month. Eldredge says in a round about way that the church is full of posers and the preacher is the biggest one of all.  By poser, he means someone who is playing a roll –a man who is wearing a mask for the public, but deep inside is tormented.  Senior pastors are gifted self-starters –leaders.  These achievers are socially acceptable forms of violent men, and the victims are their marriages, families and their health. Nobody is surprised when the CEO of some big company falls into an affair or has kids who hate him, but no, I mean heavens no…not the preacher. Read More

Timing

I am reading Steve Jobs by Walter Isaacson.  I am going beyond the text by watching old videos online, including a joint discussion with Jobs and Bill Gates of Microsoft that took place in 2007 where they talk about the history of the personal computer and what Jobs called Post-PC devices.  I love reading about business and I’m a little bit of a tech geek, so the 600-page behemoth is a worthy mountain to climb. I am not even halfway finished, but I have come to this conclusion: Steve Jobs success, at least initially, was basically attributable to one thing –timing.   Read More

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